10 Things to Do to Be Unreasonably Happy

1. Live in the Present

It is simply IMPOSSIBLE to be unhappy in the present moment. Negative feelings are residues from past experiences, and worries and fears belong to a possible event in the future. These two unreal dimensions are the true causes of sabotaging and spoiling our present. Challenge yourself to truly observe  the majesty of even a bare tree in winter and feel grief, or embrace your children or partner and cover them with kisses and tight hugs and feel ungrateful, or even take a deep revitalizing breath and feel distress. It is amazingly impossible to bring sorrow to your heart when you are here. This is the power of now. Remember that happiness does not come with reaching a destination; live in the moment and enjoy the journey. ”You can’t live at all unless you can live fully now!” ~Alan Watts

2. Make a Choice to Be Happy Every Morning

When we make the decision to be happy, we allow ourselves to be open to receiving happiness. By making this choice, we let the Cosmos know of our desire. By tuning our mind on happiness every morning, we start feeding happy thoughts. The more happy thoughts we think, the happier we get and the wonderful spiral lives on. On the other hand, if we don’t choose to be happy, we let the occasional negative vibration attract even more of its similar frequency. And before we know it, we will be swamped with disheartening emotions. As Abraham-Hicks suggests, the best time to tune into higher vibrations is the first 17 seconds after we wake up in the morning; when we are virtually in a blank slate during a very small window of time. We will have a higher chance of staying there if we keep this vibration for at least 68 seconds. Rinse and repeat throughout the day. Choose and expect to be happy and you will be. If you want to be happy, be.3. Clear Your Limiting Beliefs

The data and the conditioning that have been imprinted in our subconscious mind throughout the early years of childhood, are occasionally, if not all the time, the causes of our negative thoughts and emotions. By exploring these limiting beliefs, we disempower them and don’t allow them to govern our moods and rule our lives. Check back in for a future blog post to learn how to identify and clear your limiting beliefs.

4. Meditate

Meditation carries us into the deeper levels of consciousness where we are whole. Where we remember we are not a drop in the ocean, but the entire ocean in a drop, as Rumi brilliantly reminds us. By regularly dipping into pure consciousness during daily meditation, we purify and detoxify our five senses and tune into our higher self in an exponential way. This is the state of bliss. Where no duality exists and, therefore, no melancholy perspective can survive. Where all is One. Pure splendour and love.

Aim to put aside at least 15 minutes every day to sit without distractions. Take a couple of deep breaths and be aware of your breathing. Then, focus on your body parts and relax them one by one. Next, think of a calm and passive scene to quiet your mind. And lastly, count down from 10 to 1 to go to a deep and relaxed state of mind. At this level of the mind, you can visualize your whole and happy self. You can also experiment with manifesting your desires and goals. You may repeat powerful words such as Peace, Joy, Love, Gratitude, Trust, Let Go, I Am and other soulful mantras when distracting thoughts occur or simply focus back on your breathing. Investing a couple of minutes in daily meditation ensures more and more blissful, mindful and happy moments for the rest of each day. Check my other blog post for a collection of guided meditation clips to get you started.

5. Love, Do Service, Make Someone Happy

It is impossible to make someone happy and stay unhappy. The Universe is held together via the force of compassion. Caring and contributing to the betterment of the world sets us free because it is the true self we mindfully choose to live. Hug more. Show your affection. Assign 20-second hugs and kisses with your family each and every day. Do a daily random act of kindness to receive a substantial dose of joy. Start a wave of benevolence and care and royally ride on it and revel in the everlasting blissful ecstasy and joy.

6. Put Things in Perspective

Our subconscious mind is naturally inclined to detect and focus on the flaws and imperfections in an even almost perfect system in order to protect us from possible future failure. Triggered by a negative situation, we might find ourselves plunged in a pool of negativity in all aspects of our lives and personalities. This drains the energy out of us and renders us defenseless and overwhelmed in the midst of devastation and helplessness. The meaning we give to something is the energy we attract. As soon as you catch yourself in a negativity spiral, stop, take a deep breath, observe and choose to inspect the aspects of your life that are filled with gratitude-worthy people, things, and blessings. By shifting your point of attention, you raise your vibration and cultivate your energy field to attract higher vibration events and feelings. Write on a daily gratitude journal to maintain your happiness level and your blissful state.

7. Up-cycle Negative Experiences

The first step to up-cycle a negative event or experience is to get to know your current emotion and dare yourself to truly feel the whole spectrum of the feeling. This is a very short but a miraculously effective process, and it should not take more than a couple of seconds. This takes courage and a good deal of mindfulness as we naturally resist our negative emotions unaware that what we resist, persists. Instead of saying, “I am angry” say, “I am anger”. Read How to End Suffering – A Story of the Ego to help you grasp this concept further.

The next step is to raise your awareness to allow yourself to receive the negative experience instead of denying or resisting it. By doing this, you strip the power off of the event and upgrade yourself from a victimhood state to an observing or awakened state. Going forward, depending on your view of Divinity, you can cultivate the faith in the higher power of the Divine intelligence and indulge in the sanctuary and  the Divine compassion and wisdom trusting what is, is what needs to be. Now you can embrace what has happened to you and turn it into strength.

It’s time to choose another point of view other than that of the ego’s regardless of how intricate and unattainable it might seem initially. Venture to find the silver lining and the benefit of the event. What might have you learned from the experience? What gain has resulted because of the “undesirable” situation? Instead of victimizing yourself, get curious and eager to take actions to turn the event around to your benefit. Recite to yourself, “Things happen FOR me, not TO me.”

8. Be Aware that You Are Part of a Whole

The key word here is TRUST. If we observe keenly, we see nothing but resourcefulness, intelligence, abundance and order in the world around us and within us. When we utterly and selflessly give in to the supremacy of the Divine intelligence in the first 9 months of our lives, why we self-riotously assume we are know-all and stand-alone creatures for the years to come? The motherly support and sublime presence ubiquitously surround us. We just need mindful practices and clues to observe this long and often so it becomes ingrained in our conscious and subconscious mind. What are we afraid of? Isn’t our birth in this world a miracle by itself without needing a minute bit of our intervention and meddling? How about the magnificent turns of the four seasons or the reproduction and survival of all living creatures? Why do we forget about the miracles of our five senses, our limbs and organs and our mysterious mind? Why do we choose to be oblivious to the myriads of marvels surrounding us? All is spectacular. Just trust and be.

9. Have a Healthy Routine and Play

Exercise, dance, sing, listen to music, watch a good movie, walk in nature and play to raise your energy. By mindfully choosing these activities, you refocus your point of attraction and allow ecstasy and bliss flow into your life abundantly and effortlessly. Plan your day the night before to eat right, do your daily exercise and meditation and carry out your daily tasks. Manage your time to accomplish your daily responsibilities towards your noble goals and reward yourself when you do. Feeling of accomplishment induces feelings of joy and exhilaration.

10. “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?” – An old parable

The only horse of a farmer runs away and this causes the neighbors to sympathize with him about his “bad” luck. In response to this pity he answers, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”. Couple of days later, the horse returns accompanied with a herd of wild horses when the neighbors now congratulate him on his “good” luck. Repeating what he previously stated, he replies,” Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?” Days later, his son attempts riding on one of the wild horses and he accidentally breaks his leg. This time, everyone shares their comments of how unlucky he is; when he responds once again, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?” The next day the government delegates come to recruit his son for a bloody war and the son is dismissed because of his broken leg. Now do you think this was good luck or bad luck? Who knows?

The art of purposeful and joyous living is to be able to merely observe our experiences without judging. To be the sky and to see our problems like fluffy white clouds merely passing through us. To believe everything is whole. And to trust there are no bad events; only new and learning experiences that are exclusively meant to cross path with us at a specific point in time. It tends to be rather difficult to love all at all times, like the hardship and the resentment we sometimes feel. However, if we can master this, we will master our life and gratification and glory will reside permanently in every nuke and cranny of our soul. The difference between a good day and a bad day is always our attitude. Sometimes we don’t even need to solve a problem or rectify a situation; if we change our thinking, the problem is already solved by itself.

It is our birthright to be happy; let’s claim it 🙂

♥ Be.Love.Know. ♥

7 Sure-Fire Steps to Reach Your Goals

  1. Have a clear vision of your goal and visualize the desired outcome
  2. Identify and clear your limiting beliefs
  3. Explore your goals and produce an outline to carry out manageable sub-goals
  4. Apply an efficient time management system and get accountable
  5. Create a personal support system to stay on track
  6. Never stop researching and learning more about your visions and missions
  7. Maintain your perspective and have fun on your journey

Reach your goals by asking 
1. Have a clear vision of your goal and visualize the desired outcome

It never stops surprising me how we are rarely certain of what we really want. We just, on some abstract level, have the need to feel happier and more accomplished. If we are not sure of what we concretely want, how will the Universe know in order to make it happen for us? The best approach to identifying your dreams and visions is to write. Set aside at least an hour to explore and write how you like to see yourself in the future in all aspects of life; health, relationship, success and spirituality. You can split the list into short-term and long-term goals and visions. Try to be specific. Feel the responsibility that you truly are co-creating your life. What you want, will happen. Be detailed and bullet-proof.  Sometimes, when I’m not pleased with an outcome and examine my goal agenda, I see that the entire list has come to pass, and that the missing element in the outcome is actually missing from my list!

One of the other obstacles is that we simply don’t ask, or metaphorically don’t order from the catalog of the Universe. We assume that we, single-handedly, need to accomplish our goals and this causes us to feel alone, distressed, powerless and sometimes even depressed. Human being cannot function his best in a not-relaxed state. Eventually, we fall into a negativity spiral and lose control. It’s essential to remember that we are part of a super intelligent Universe. We are encompassed in a supportive and regal system. If you dare to ask the Cosmos to assist you, you will fall into the flow and your path will be paved via various means such as inspirations to do specific actions, serendipitous events or simply miracles.

Once you have identified your goals and dreams, get in the habit of visualizing the end results as if they have already happened. Mix emotions such as joy and gratitude with the imaginary scenes. This is a phenomenal goal manifestation technique. The best time to visualize is when you are on the verge of falling asleep. This is when our brain produces Alpha brainwaves and causes us to go into a hypnotic state. At this level of the mind, the subconscious mind is the most suggestible and is strongly malleable to receive new data. Create vision boards and take advantage of affirmation sentences to cultivate goal achievement in deeper levels of the mind. Ask, and it is given. Expect miracles!
2. Identify and clear your limiting beliefs

95% of our mind has been programmed with myriads of data during the years of 0-6 years old. This part of the mind, named subconscious mind, is the drive behind all of our reactions, habits, and activities. The remaining 5%, called the conscious mind, encompasses our intentions and goals, and it remains virtually powerless against the massive influence of the subconscious mind. This visual will help you grasp the grandiosity of the subconscious mind and how it hinders us from reaching our goals. Imagine you are in a rowboat and are thriving your hardest to row your boat forward and reach your destination, but it’s fruitless.  The harder you row, the more frustrated you feel. What is holding you back is actually the anchor deep rooted in the seabed. This anchor is your limiting belief that has been programmed in your mind most probably in the early years of childhood via your authority figures and your surrounding.

An example of a limiting belief is when you intend to become rich, unaware that you subconsciously believe that money is the root of all evil or you have to become old or work too hard to acquire a certain amount of income. This limiting belief sabotages your intention and impedes you from moving forward with your goal. If you want to lose weight, you might subconsciously believe that it’s impossible to reach your ideal weight since you have tried it numerous times and the most you have achieved is a yo-yo result. This belief, alone, hinders you to even be suggestible to a positive result.

Now to find your limiting beliefs, like any other discovery process, start writing. Catch your negative emotion, find the thought behind the emotion and the belief behind the thought. Now ask yourself why you have this belief. Try to bring contradictory examples of your own life and others to disempower the limiting belief. Ideally, you will come to the understanding that your limiting belief is not a fact, and it, in fact, is just an opinion of yours. Finally, ask yourself if you prefer to choose a different belief that can actually serve you in reaching your goal. For example, money can be the awesome means for me to contribute to the betterment of the world, and therefore it cannot be the root of all evil for me. Or I have seen people losing weight all the time, so if I stumble upon a solid healthy eating and exercising system, I can do it too.

Meditation, self-hypnosis, visualization, affirmation and vision boards are some of the tools to help you reprogram your mind and replace your limiting beliefs  with the ones that essentially serve you. Subconscious mind does not understand words. The language of the subconscious mind is emotion, repetition, and action. Feel grateful that you have replaced your limiting belief, use the tools consistently and stick to your actions step to prove your subconscious mind that you are serious. Rinse and repeat the practice of your choice for at least 21 days (or better yet 3 months) to guarantee you have built a new neural pathway and have replaced your old beliefs.

As the cell biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton says, “If you change your belief, you change your reality.”
3. Explore your goals and produce an outline to carry out manageable sub-goals

Once you have identified your goal, explore the most optimal action steps you need to embrace in order to achieve your goal in a timely fashion. Break down the tasks into viable and sustainable chunks. Try to be a fair judge, assigning yourself a reasonable and realistic to-do list. Have a detailed and timed list for the following day, as well as a weekly and a monthly agenda. Every night, spend some time to schedule your next day on a sheet of paper or on a digital device. Be accountable and follow the plan. Use checkmarks once daily tasks are completed to feel rewarded and accomplished.
4. Apply an efficient time management system and get accountable

Time management is actually priority management. In order to organize your tasks, give priority to the most important and the most critical one. Learn to say NO when necessary. Brian Tracy suggests, Eat that Frog First, meaning attend to the most demanding and significant task preceding others. Take breaks, walk and stretch regularly and recuperate to go on full-force with the next portion. Procrastination is the result of misjudging values. Re-evaluate your tasks often and refocus your energy and priorities to regain control. Always remember that multitasking works against you. Close one task and then attend to the next.

Priority Matrix
5. Create a personal support system to stay on track

Avoid stepping in the pitfalls and maintain your positive driving energy on a daily basis. Even the strongest leaders need cues and assistance to nurture their focus. Practice makes perfect. We are in the business of reprogramming our mind in order to serve us better. It takes repetition and practice to replace old habitual conducts. If you are persistent, you will get it; if you are consistent, you will keep it. Have faith and be steadfast in your journey. You will actualize your desires and goals before you know it. Set daily reminders to make you pause your routine and reflect on your true self, your current emotion, and your vision.

Ask a supportive friend or a coach to give you ongoing encouragements and to keep you accountable for your daily or weekly assignments.  Give yourself rewards and have fun. Anything that is transmuted into a chore or a difficult task, is harder to deal with. If you treat your tasks this way, the journey will be cumbersome and the result is not ideal. Relax and enjoy the ride. We learn and function better in a relaxed state of mind. As soon as you catch a negative wave, take a deep breath and become aware of the moment and expand your perspective, meditate, listen to inspiring music, read, listen to or watch a motivation material or get in touch with your support system. If you want to change your mood, go play, take a walk, watch a good movie, dance or have a soulful conversation. Take on any action of your choice to raise your vibration to higher frequency emotions such as love, joy, gratitude and peace, and all will be good.

It is always helpful to have a coach 🙂
6. Never stop researching and learning more about your visions and missions

As the saying goes; the more you learn, the more you earn. Nothing static will last. Don’t be resistant to  transforming into something more refined at any point in your life. Try not to get comfortable with your achievements. This does not mean that you do not live at the moment, or do not experience joy now. As a matter of fact, when you feel gratitude about your present state of being, you will get inspired to do more. The more you contribute to this world, the richer your life will become with pure blessings and Divine consciousness. Be mindful at any moment. Take note of all you are, and get aligned to your true self. Expect to get inspired with the actions you are to take to further empower you to stay in tune with the Light and the Divine beauty.
7. Maintain your perspective and have fun on your journey

Life is an ongoing journey of finding and rediscovering our true self, time and again. The moments we are aware of our flawless Divine being, are the blissful and purposeful moments of alignment and congruence with nature and the Universe around us. The moments of co-creation. We simply feel happy and don’t feel the need to gain something or get somewhere to make us feel this way. We are purely enough. World is enough. The chirping of the blue jays is plenty and the slow mesmerizing motion of white cottony clouds in the chest of the vast blue sky is abundant. We breathe in oneness and breathe out joy. Sometimes we merely need to observe the massiveness of the world surrounding us and within us to revive our perspective. By taking these regular breaks from our daily life, we can recuperate and refocus our energy. All is good, we are where we need to be. Let’s have fun with the journey and have a playful attitude so we don’t miss out on our present. As Natalie Goldberg says, “What’s important is not only what we do, but how we do it. Don’t listen to doubt. It leads to no place but to pain and negativity.” Let us savor our daily adventures and tasks and be aware of our emotions. Starve what you don’t want and feed what you do.

Only as high as I reach can I grow
Only as far as I seek can I go
Only as deep as I look can I see
Only as much as I dream can I be
― Karen Ravn

♥ Be.Love.Know. ♥

7 Books for Personal Growth

RumiThe Essential Rumi

by Jalal al-Din Rumi (Author), Coleman Barks, John Moyne (Translators)



The Power of NowThe Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

by Eckhart Tolle



Peace Is Every StepPeace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life

by Thich Nhat Hanh



Joyful WisdomJoyful Wisdom: Embracing Change and Finding Freedom

by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche



Law of AttractionThe Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham

by Esther Hicks



Silva MethodThe Silva Mind Control Method

by Jose Silva



Think and Grow RichThink and Grow Rich: The Landmark Bestseller

by Napoleon Hill